Lose, lose when you lie!

Congratulations! You lost me.

I am humble enough to know that I am replacable. Confident enough to know it's a DOWNGRADE!

I always give my used toys to the less fortunate.

Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer care.

You knew what you were doing, and you knew it would hurt me, but somehow that still didn’t stop you.

Relationships sink when there are too many passengers.

Cheat on a good woman, and karma makes sure you end up with the bitch you deserve.

I love being solid, because I never have to wonder if it was me or you.

No need to glare at me when you are with my ex, I don't want him back, I've seen where he's been.

I don't cry because its over, I smile because he is finally someone else's problem.

If someone is willing to cheat with you, they will cheat on you. As much as you hate to believe it, you're not the exception to the rule.

The toxic monster I saw in the end is who they are. I shall never doubt myself again when they play nice.

Cheating is never a mistake. That shit is planned. You talked, linked and then F*CKED.

A good woman with trust issues is just a Queen who once invested her loyalty into a peasant.

A strong woman will level up so much after a breakup that her ex won't even be her type anymore.

Delete him. Act like you never met him, and he never happened.

Ladies, sometimes, you have to let a man, that was never on your level to begin with, go right back to what he is used to. You're not for everybody.

I am not the other woman. I am the only woman. Got it? Good.

Most people cheat because they’re paying more attention to what they’re missing than what they have.

Being single is better than being lied to, cheated on, and disrespected.

A fake boyfriend will put a lock on his phone. A real boyfriend will say, “Hey baby, can you read that text for me?”

Cheating is never okay. There is no justification for it.

When love is real, it doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend, or keep secrets.

Don’t apologise and then do it again.

I’m a good enough person to forgive you, but not stupid enough to trust you again.

You do not love someone who you cheer on or plan to cheer on. Keep the “I Love You” out of your mouth and save it for that one person you would never risk losing for just one good night.

I refuse to be subjected to your mind games and lies. I will not play a part in your constant drama. You will not manipulate me, nor will you control me.

I don’t know what’s worse—that you cheated on me or that you cheated on me with a really ugly woman.

I didn't lose you; you lost me. You'll search for me inside of everyone you're with, and I won't be found.

If a girl asks you a question, it's better to just give her the truth; chances are she is asking you because she already knows the answer.

You cheated on me with a person who knew about me, and you expect me to forgive you? No, I'm good because you had me, and now you lost me to somebody who will never be me!

I'm not even competing. I've already won.

You can't change someone who doesn't see an issue in themselves.

If anyone can have it, I don't want it!

She is both hellfire and holy water. And the flavour you taste depends on how you treat her.

Imagine hurting the girl God sent to heal you. Enjoy that loss.

Narcissists don't just fool you; they fool themselves. They are delusional; they have to believe their own lies in order to cope with their own existence. They find a way to justify everything and blame shift onto others. If they didn't, they would be crushed under the weight of everything they have done.

I won't block you or delete you. I'm keeping you there so you can see how happy I am without you.

If someone is willing to cheat with you, they will cheat on you. As much as you hate to believe it, you're not the exception to the rule.

If you succeeded in cheating someone, don't think that person is a fool. Realise that the person trusted you more than you deserved.

Personally, I don't find swearing offensive. I do find, back stabbing, lying, cheating and fucking people over offensive, but not swearing. Fuckology.

The truth is, I've never fooled anyone. I've let men sometimes fool themselves.

Cheating is easy, try something more challenging like being faitful.

Cheating is not always kissing, touching or flirting. If you have to delete text messages so your parner won't see them, you're already there.

If you could see the spiritual state of who you're attracted to you might not be so quick to lay with them.

Ga 5:16 - Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

BOUNDARIES, where you end AND I BEGIN.

Lose, lose when you lie. 

You'll be lonely at night.

Will you ever get use to it?

Prayer Book

September 16, 2024

God, you’ve heard my prayers! You've counted my tears! You have read my petitions!

Where there is deceit, I cry for justice!

I command every satanic imagination that is scheming and plotting against my prayers and against my life to be permanently erased right now!

Every sinful deed, every lying tongue rising up against that which you have predestined, be frustrated and cast down right now, in the Name of Jesus!

I speak confusion, doubt, and fear into the camp of the enemy!

I command every spirit of jealousy, lust, and envy be burnt by fire right now!

By the Power of the Holy Spirit, I command love and peace to reign in my relationships.

In the face of my enemies, I am being promoted while they are being exposed!

Amen

Against all odds - Persia

Something that's been on my mind - Persia (but never actually committed to) ever since 2019 - Missionary work...

More specifically:

If I ever had the call or the choice to choose where in the world I could do missionary work, I'd choose Iran (Persia) with a population of 83.8 million people. 

As one source who works in Iran revealed: “About 20 years ago, the number of Christian converts from a Muslim background was between 5,000 and 10,000 people. Today that's between 800,000 to 1 million people. That's massive growth.” 4 June 2024

Approximately 83 million people unsaved. Instead of praying  for Iran from afar, I would rather be present, fishing against all odds!!!!!

Some interesting facts:

• Owning, printing, importing or distributing Bibles in Iran is illegal. 

• The law prohibits citizens from converting from Islam to another religion.

• Despite their formal protection in the Constitution, Christians still face significant levels of persecution in Iran, with church services being raided and Christians who have converted from Islam being imprisoned.

"Christians in Iran are forbidden to evangelize, produce gospel literature, or hold church services in Farsi, the country's official language. Technically, any Muslim who leaves Islam is subject to the death penalty."

Might be a suicide mission for some, even more so being a woman I'd say, but I do not fear death. I will not die before my time. Period.

Grace for His Purpose. 

My thoughts?

Requirements:

* Faith 

* A willing heart

* Boldness

* A walking talking example of Jesus Christ

* God's word engraved on my heart

* Prayer 

* Focus

* Complete surrender

* Arabic proficiency 

A given:

* Persecution 

* Spiritual attacks 

* Isolation 

Desired outcome:

Planting! Planting! Planting!

Millions saved

Worse case scenario:

Prison 

Death

God, a 1% yes is all that I need from You because 1% is not nothing. It's something! If you say go, I'll obey. If you say wait, I'll stay. 

God, but what if?

Dangerous Assumptions

What are assumptions about a person?

We all make assumptions. We make assumptions about other people from what they look like, what they say or don't say, how they act or don't act. Yet, when others make assumptions about ourselves, it is frustrating because, at the heart of it all, we know they don't know the whole truth.

We fail to distinguish between method and motive. We tend to judge another’s motive based on their method. When methods seem insensitive, we may assume that motives are evil. Do we let the enemy cause division because we assume we know another’s intent because their approach seems rude, confusing, or ungentle?

Assuming Motives is Divisive

If I assume a negative motive, I will treat you as if that motive is fact, resulting in hurt and confusion. When I wrongly assume others’ motives, I create division rather than preserve the unity our Lord calls us to enjoy in the body of Christ.

As we see in God’s Word, assuming motives can even cause war. Consider the story in 2 Samuel 10. David tried to show kindness to Hanun the king by sending men to console him after the death of Hanun’s father. But others in Hanun’s confidence questioned that motive, assuming that the men sent by David to console Hanun actually intended to spy out the land. The so-called “spies” were then mistreated, and the result was a retaliatory war. Even though David’s motive was to bless Hanun, his motives were assumed to be evil, and war broke out.

Of course, the outstanding example of tragic assumption is found in the story of Jesus Christ. He came to the Earth with the noblest of motives—to honor and obey His Father. Nevertheless, He was wrongly accused and crucified as a criminal and “false” Messiah.

Assuming Motives is Addressed by God

God’s Word instructs us, “Therefore, do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men’s hearts; and then each man’s praise will come to him from God” (1 Cor. 4:5).

My personal “heart-check” verse when tempted toward assumption is Romans 14:4: “Who are you to judge the servant of another? To his own master he stands or falls; and he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.”

How to Avoid Assuming Motives

Assuming Motives is a Heart Issue 

Why are we so quick to make negative assumptions of others’ motives? I think there could be several reasons:

• We recognize our own heart’s sinful motives, and we assume others have the same motives that we do. (Sometimes people do have evil motives—to harm us and do damage.)

• We may pridefully believe that we are discerning people and can clearly see what is “obviously” going on in someone’s heart.

• We fear others instead of loving them. Fear may protectively assume the worst, dwell on hurts, and recount offenses. 1 Corinthians 13:7 tells us that love believes all things; that is, love chooses to believe the best about other people rather than the worst whenever possible. Love gives someone the benefit of the doubt and does not jump to conclusions.

• We fail to distinguish between method and motive. We tend to judge another’s motive based on their method. When methods seem insensitive, we may assume that motives are evil. Do we let the enemy cause division because we assume we know another’s intent because their approach seems rude, confusing, or ungentle?

Extend the benefit of charity; make graceful assumptions. Love calls us to regard others with hope rather than suspicion. Out of love for God and our brothers and sisters, we ought to grant them the same mercy and the same grace that we want to be granted ourselves. Let’s stop the cycle of judgment by leaning into the One who extends grace and love to us on a daily basis.

And finally, judgment has a sort of, "this is the final answer" feeling, which closes us off to receptivity and the possibility of mutual understanding. Discernment, on the other hand, is responding from love, rather than reacting, so we can make appropriate choices for ourselves, and for the good of others.

Questions for Reflection

1. How often do we completely misunderstand people because we are assuming motives that are not actually there? 

2. How often do we listen to those around us and build up a case, rather than asking clarifying questions? 

3.How often do we question our assumptions?

Source: https://www.biblicalcounselingcoalition.org/2019/08/09/warning-dangerous-assumptions-ahead/

Act

My passion and admiration for Shakespeare and the Bible has prompted me to make mention of this and I'm just letting it flow.

By William Shakespeare

(from As You Like It, spoken by Jaques)

                                        All the world’s a stage,

And all the men and women merely players;

They have their exits and their entrances;

And one man in his time plays many parts,

His acts being seven ages. At first the infant,

Mewling and puking in the nurse’s arms;

And then the whining school-boy, with his satchel

And shining morning face, creeping like snail

Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,

Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad

Made to his mistress’ eyebrow. Then a soldier,

Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard,

Jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel,

Seeking the bubble reputation

Even in the cannon’s mouth. And then the justice,

In fair round belly with good capon lin’d,

With eyes severe and beard of formal cut,

Full of wise saws and modern instances;

And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts

Into the lean and slipper’d pantaloon,

With spectacles on nose and pouch on side;

His youthful hose, well sav’d, a world too wide

For his shrunk shank; and his big manly voice,

Turning again toward childish treble, pipes

And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,

That ends this strange eventful history,

Is second childishness and mere oblivion;

Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.

By William Shakespeare

(from Macbeth, spoken by Macbeth)

Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow,

Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,

To the last syllable of recorded time;

And all our yesterdays have lighted fools

The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!

Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,

That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,

And then is heard no more. It is a tale

Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,

Signifying nothing.

You see, we are all actors and actresses. During the day we take on many different roles. 

Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary

Definition of act 

-Verb

• Do

to do for a particular purpose or in order to deal with a situation.

• Behave

to behave in a particular way.

• Pretend

to pretend by your behavior to be a particular type of person.

• Perform in play/movie

to perform a part in a play or film/movie.

• Perform functions

to perform a particular role or function.

• Have effect 

to have an effect on.

What does scripture say about "acting" ?

Ephesians 5:1

Therefore be imitators of God as dear children, 

1 Corinthians 11

Imitate me, just as I imitate Christ. 

Scriptures on imitating Christ has inspired me to meditate on following Christ. As followers of Christ we imitate Christ. As imitators of Christ we follow Christ. To be like Christ is to be Christ because Christ is in us. We are IMITATORS of Christ, called to FOLLOW him and to follow in His steps.

2 Timothy 3:16-17

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.

John 8:19

Then a certain teacher scribe came and set to Him, "Teacher, I will follow You wherever You go." 

Matthew 8:9

And He said to him, "Follow Me." So he arose and followed Him.

Mark 8:34

Whoever desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me.

John 10:4-5

And when he brings out his own sheep, he goes before them; and the sheep follow him, for they know his voice. Yet they will by no means follow a stranger, but will flee from him, for they do not know the voice of strangers.

John 12:26

If anyone serves Me, let him follow Me; and where I am, there My servant will be also. If anyone serves Me, him My Father will honor.

1 Peter 2:21

For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps:

Revelation 14:4

These are the ones who follow the lamb wherever He goes.

*As of today I am viewing Shakespeare's plays through a whole different lense. I agree to disagree. When you are saved you are not just a mere participant in stumbling through life without direction or purpose waiting for your time to die. 

Yet the freedom of speech and Shakespeare's ability to bring real life emotion into play, is what makes it authentic and we can all somehow relate.

Imitating Christ is trying until you get it right!

♥️

It's broken; it's lost. It's over. It's done.

16 July, 2024

Trying to be present in the here and now. All I can think of is the sound of sweet nothingness. A silent moment in time. But it's the past seven months that have truly stretched me beyond belief. When I thought I was weak, I realised, but wait, I am strong. I've got this. I have to do this.

 

Trauma, and then some more, followed by two clients linked to one company. They say that it happens in threes. Well. Third time lesson learned. The hard way.

 

You know, and no wonder!!! Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of light.

He saw my weakness, my lack, and my desires, and well played, but thanks to discernment, prayer, and renewing my mind with the word of God, I could withstand the attacks from the enemy. Because of my church family that stands with me, my friends, I know that I am not alone and that I do not have to face everything alone any more. There are good people out there who have my back, my best interests at heart, and that gives me the strength to keep going. 

 

It is never easy to walk away. It takes a brave heart, a strong character, dignity, and strength to decide to never look back and to stick to that decision. You see, people underestimate the power of God in a praying Christian. Non-believers cannot see. There is absolutely nothing that we can do to change that. Only Jesus can do that. Dear non-believer, never, ever underestimate a discerning Christian. By the Holy Spirit, they will x-ray you all the way down to the core. 

 

I know what you did. But my anger towards you is paving my way forward. So thank you. I am using all of it. What was meant for evil and for my destruction, God is using to propel me into my calling. My spirit feels cold towards yours. How my spirit wept your spirit. Disgust is not quite the word that I am looking for. Disappointment, hurt, grieved, pained, regret, revolt, sickened, nauseated, horrified, shock, furious, distance, a Godly anger, to say the least. If you walk in the spirit, you will understand and recognise the things of the spirit. When you walk in the flesh, you will taste the fruits of it. It is bitter. Bittersweet.

 

I cannot hold a conversation with someone who does not see anything wrong with their actions. Someone who refuses to take accountability. Someone who refuses to change. I cannot and do not want to change you. It is too much of a responsibility. It would require a lot of my time, effort, and patience, and a favourable outcome is not promised. Jesus, this one's for you. I just can't. I don't want to.

 

My conclusion is: choose your clients wisely. The same goes for love. If he hasn't walked the talk with Christ, if he doesn't have godly character, a man after God's own heart, dear Christian woman, walk away. We cannot be unequally yoked. Bad company corrupts good character. It is not worth the risk.

• Mind the company that you keep. 
• Mind the many voices of "influencers" in your life. 
• Mind your peace. 
• Mind your values. 
• Mind your morals. 
• Mind your standards. 
• Stive for the best. 
• Believe in yourself. 
• You are enough. 
• You are worthy. 
• You are worth it. 

Somewhere, there is a single Christian man working on himself, seeking God, and praying for someone like you. Take your time and be patient. When the time is right, God will make it happen. Stay on your path. The closer you get to God and to your purpose, know that there will be waves and storms. Satan will not give up without a fight. Stay on guard. Put on the whole armour of God so that you may withstand the evil schemes of the enemy. Always.

 

This is not a time to break into tears. I lift up my eyes to the heavens, taking my rightful place, walking in authority, and pursuing God like never before. I choose you, God. I obey you, God. I answer to you, God. I live for you, God. What's done is done. We are in the now. Focused on the vision. 

 

Words of advise: Whether you are a  narcissist, struggling with boundaries, or if you have a substance abuse history of events, etc., find a sponsor (NA or AA) and do the 12-step program. Whereby you will be held accountable for all your actions. It's a start. It might just change your life.

*21 days to break a habit, a change of routine. That's all it takes.

Conclusion

I'd rather be a young man's darling than that of a particularly dirty old man's.

12 Steps To Move On From A Narcissist (12 Ways to Break a Narcissist's Heart)

1. Do what makes you happy.

 

Go after what you really want without worrying about their opinion. When you’re with a narcissist, they might try to undermine you and make you think you can’t trust yourself. They want you to feel like you’re less important than they are, but you’re just as competent and capable. Make the choices that feel right to you, and avoid giving them any control over you or your life. The best thing you can do is move on. You might go after the job you want, even though they said you wouldn’t be good at it. Similarly, you may decide to start a new hobby even though your ex said it would be a waste of time.
Learn to follow your intuition.

 

2. Flaunt how well things are going in your life.

 

Seeing you happy will make your ex regret losing you. Some narcissists don’t have the emotional capacity for true happiness. They can only play games and try to put others down. Show them you’re living your best life without them, and they’ll experience their own version of heartbreak. You could: 

Post photos on social media of you having fun with friends or family.
Brag to your mutual friends about your accomplishments or progress towards your goals.
Go on a few casual or group dates to dip your toes in the dating scene.
Give yourself a post-breakup makeover.

 

3. Set boundaries to protect yourself.

 

Boundaries help you move on. Establish boundaries by figuring out what you need from this person. Then, tell them your expectations for them. Be honest about what you’re willing to accept from them and what you won’t allow. You might say things like, Please stop contacting me.”
“Don’t share my photos with other people.”
“I won’t talk to you when you’re yelling.”
“I’m ending the conversation if you call me names.”
“I’m only going to talk to you about the kids.”

 

4. Ignore their forms of manipulation. manipulation. manipulation. manipulation.

Narcissists may play games to manipulate you, but you don't have to buy in. They might have a whole slew of games they use to control you, such as love bombing, gaslighting, and revenge. Avoid playing their games, and just ignore them when they try to manipulate you, so they don’t have control anymore. Don't argue with a narcissist, because they might just keep escalating things until they get their way. Someone with NPD is incapable of seeing things from your point of view. Just ignore them. Revenge is actually one of the narcissist’s games. When they feel slighted, they may spread rumours about you, destroy your stuff, or get violent. In some cases, they'll pursue revenge over a long period of time. Reader Poll: We asked 508 wikiHow readers, and 70% of them agreed that the most effective way to ignore a narcissist is to cut off or limit your contact with them.

 

5. Deny them what they want.

Focusing on your needs shows them what they’re losing. Many narcissists are users. They expect you to be there for them, but they have no intention of reciprocating. Start saying “no” to them and focus on what you want instead. They’ll get super frustrated and realiserealiserealiserealiserealisewhat awhat awhat awhat a what a great partner you were for them. Stop returning their phone calls and texts.
Don’t react to anything they say or do.
Refuse to give them compliments.
Stop doing favours for them.

 

6. Stay calm when they want to upset you. You.

 

Narcissists need a reaction from you to be fulfilled, so don't give them one. They want you to get mad, distressed, or apologetic. Any type of reaction will make them feel like they’re winning, whether it’s lashing out, crying, or apologizing. Even though it’s hard, do your best to be calm and not react. Try taking several deep breaths.
Counting to 10.
Repeating the word “relax” to yourself.
Imagine Imagine a calm scene.
Stretching.

 

7. Cut off all contact with them if you can.

 

Communicating with your ex gives them power, so take it away. They may try to use lines of communication to weasel their way back into your life. On the other hand, going without contact makes them feel your loss. Block them on your phone and social media, and try to avoid places they’ll be. You might have to keep talking to them if you have kids together or if you work with them. Try to keep your conversations limited to talking about your children or your job.

 

8. BewareBewareBewareBeware of future love bombing. bombing.

 

Avoid their attempts to suck you back in to keep control over your life. Some narcissists use a tactic called love bombing to draw you in. They may treat you like they did in the beginning of your relationship—charming and sweet. They’re hoping to draw you back to them, which is called “hoovering.” However, this change is temporary, and they’ll often be back to their narcissistic behaviour once you lower your motions. Brush off their efforts, and you’ll come out on top. They’ll likely shower you with compliments and tell you how much they miss you. They’re only going to keep this up until you come back, and then they’ll be back to their games.

 

9. Love yourself instead of loving them.

 

Use your energy to feed your own ego and prove that you're important. Instead of showering them with love, focus your efforts on meeting your own needs. Additionally, go after your hopes and dreams. Seeing you shine will drive a narcissist crazy, and you will show them once and for all that they have no power over you. 

Identify goals that are important to you.
Practice self-care so you look and feel your best.
Compliment yourself.

 

10. Build a support system for yourself.

 

Rely on people who care about you as you recover. You deserve love and support, and there are people out there who truly value you. You might even make some new friends who don’t know your ex. That way, you’ll have people who are totally on your side. It’s possible that a narcissist will try to turn some people against you. This experience can be super painful, but it has nothing to do with you. Eventually, most people will recognise that your ex is the true problem. In the meantime, spend time with people who see your truth.

 

11. Don't take on blame or guilt.

 

Narcissists may try to blame you for everything, but you’re not responsible. If your ex insulted, gaslit, or lied to you, their behaviour is not your fault. When you start to feel critical of yourself, remind yourself that you aren’t responsible. Additionally, talk to someone you trust who can offer you encouragement. Tell yourself things like, “I did everything I could to make our relationship wonderful,” “I can’t control anyone else’s actions,” and “I gave 100% to my relationship.”
Vent about your experiences to someone you can trust. Unfortunately, talking to a narcissist may only make them work harder to make you feel bad.

 

12. Focus on healing

 

Narcissists may try to steal your power by criticising you, so focus on self-empowerment. Their insults can damage your self-esteem, and they may have even made you doubt yourself. The truth is that you’re very worthy of love, and you have lots of wonderful and unique qualities that make you special. Take some time to remind yourself of what makes you amazing. Consider working with a therapist to help you rebuild your self-esteem after this toxic relationship. They can help you heal from narcissistic abuse.

 

Lpcc, J. R. (2024, July 12). How to Break a Narcissist’s Heart: Revenge Made Easy. wikiHow. https://www.wikihow.com/Break-a-Narcissist%27s-Heart

Move on with your life. It wasn't you; it was them. Let go of who you thought they were and accept who they are. For you.

Trauma and Abuse: How to navigate from survival mode to freedom.

Learned helplessness
a condition in which a person has a sense of powerlessness, arising from a traumatic event or persistent failure to succeed. It is thought to be one of the underlying causes of depression.

Learned helplessness is the behavior exhibited by a subject after enduring repeated aversive stimuli beyond their control.

Trauma bonding

Trauma bonds are emotional bonds that arise from a cyclical pattern of abuse. A trauma bond occurs in an abusive relationship, wherein the victim forms an emotional bond with the perpetrator. The concept was developed by psychologists Donald Dutton and Susan Painter.

Trauma bonding occurs when someone experiencing abuse develops an attachment for their abuser.

Stockholm syndrome

Stockholm syndrome is a psychological response to being held captive. People with Stockholm syndrome form a psychological connection with their captors and begin sympathizing with them.

In addition to the original kidnapper-hostage situation, Stockholm syndrome now includes other types of trauma in which there’s a bond between the abuser and the person being abused.

Many medical professionals consider the victim’s positive feelings toward their abuser a psychological response — a coping mechanism — that they use to survive the days, weeks or even years of trauma or abuse.

Survival mode

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and include: Flashbacks.
Feeling distrustful, irritated, jittery or anxious.
Can’t relax or enjoy things that you previously enjoyed.
Trouble concentrating.

A variable or constant that should be solved: Unknown

Have you ever turned toward the mysterious? Have you ever wondered? Have you ever wandered off to wonder? Ignorance or preferable ignorance?

A variable or constant that should be solved. A value is kept constant during an experiment. A solution that is required. A notion that stands for the idea of the unknown or uncharted. Anticipating and addressing potential issues beforehand can prevent problems and pave the way for successful outcomes. Planning is a structured approach that increases the likelihood of success.

The saying "when you fail to plan, you plan to fail" emphasizes the importance of effective preparation.
In essence, the saying underscores that success is not typically accidental but is often the result of careful and deliberate planning. Without a plan, actions can become haphazard and reactive rather than proactive. This lack of direction and preparedness ultimately leads to failure.

The phrase "to leave someone hanging" means to leave someone waiting for a decision, information, or resolution. It implies that the person is left in a state of uncertainty or suspense without knowing what will happen next. This can often lead to feelings of frustration, anxiety, or disappointment for the person left hanging. The phrase highlights a situation where someone is expecting a response or action that doesn't come, leading to a sense of unresolved anticipation.

The phrase "left in the dark" means being kept uninformed or unaware about something, often deliberately. It implies a lack of communication or transparency, leaving someone without the necessary information to understand a situation or make decisions. This can lead to confusion, frustration, or mistrust because the person affected does not have the information they need.

The phrase "to not know" simply means to lack knowledge or awareness about something. It can refer to not having information about a specific fact, event, or situation. Uncertainty: "We do not know what the future holds." This phrase highlights a state of ignorance or uncertainty, where a person is missing some piece of knowledge or understanding.

To be continued

Reflecting on the Nature of Self-centeredness and its Impact on Empathy

It sounds like you're reflecting on the nature of self-centeredness and its impact on empathy. 

When people are excessively self-absorbed, they often struggle to recognize or prioritise the needs and feelings of others. This lack of awareness can lead to a range of issues in relationships and communities, as empathy and understanding are essential for healthy interactions and mutual support.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another, and it requires a willingness to step outside oneself and consider someone else's perspective. When someone is too focused on their own needs and desires, it becomes challenging to genuinely connect with others and respond to their needs.

Would you like to discuss strategies for dealing with self-centred behaviour in others, or perhaps explore ways to cultivate empathy and awareness in yourself or others?

As A Deep Thinker

 As a deep thinker,

I am insatiably curious about the world around me. I want to know more because knowledge makes me happy.

I prefer to ruminate over more pressing issues and problem solving. So if I miss your birthday or anniversary, don’t worry; it’s nothing personal.

One of the unique things about being a deep thinker is that I spend so much time with my thoughts that I am able to know things about myself that others don’t take the time to understand. This makes me very perceptive in real life and allows me to tap into things that other people miss out on.

I can laugh at myself. I love life enough to know that silly things and amazing things happen. I don’t take myself too seriously, and that makes for a wonderful life in and of itself.

I analyze my experiences. I take facts and experiences from the past and link them with new facts and experiences. I like to be nostalgic, but I also like to prepare for the future by learning from the past. Thus, draw a bigger picture to see how things connect.

I look at things from multiple perspectives. I tend to do a lot of observing when other people speak. Observations of social situations and how people react and perceive them are a strong feature of my personality.

I am naturally empathic and accepting of others, and I have realistic answers to problems.

GET UP! The Deeper Things of God.

Before I start writing, God, I thank You for Your grace and Your love, which were poured out for me on the cross through the blood of Your Son, Jesus Christ. When I was dead in my sins, You gave me new life so that I might live—not because I deserved it, but because it is a gift freely given to those who believe. Therefore, I do not boast. If I must boast, I will boast about the things that concern my weaknesses. Jesus, You have redeemed me from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for me. God, I give you all the honor, all the praise, and all the glory. God, please enlighten the eyes of my understanding, and as I am about to write, lead me by the power of the Holy Spirit. In Jesus' Mighty Name, Amen!

Psalm 42:4

Why are you cast down, O my soul?
And why are you disquieted within me?
Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him

For the help of His countenance.

GET UP!

Lift up your eyes to the heavens. You are a daughter and a son of the most high God, who had you in mind when he died on the cross. God poured out His Spirit for all. He loves you so much and is not willing for anyone to perish. In fact, Jesus came so that you might have life and have it more abundantly. 

GET UP!

There's a place where only God can meet you. There is a place where only God can begin his work in you. There is a place where, when surrendering, you meet God. Soaked in his presence, he will make mysteries known. When you incline your ear, you become more sensitive to what God is telling you. When you study the word of God, you get to know him personally. You will discover that the great I AM is omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent. You could meet Jesus face-to-face and you could have a personal relationship with him. In His presence is the fullness of joy. He is a son who is exalted above the angels. He is the creator of the world and the sustainer of all things. In Hebrews, the Holy Spirit makes mention of the following, for it is written, "Today, if you will hear His voice, do not harden your heart as in the rebellion." It is by faith that we understand. 

GET UP!

God reveals himself to those who diligently seek him. God is close to the crushed in spirit and the brokenhearted. He will never leave you or forsake you. He is a loving father who disciplines the one he loves and chastens everyone he accepts as his son. Therefore, do not be downcast, oh soul! Lift up your eyes to the heavens! Feel the Prince of Peace's sweet embrace and loving arms. The moment we turn to Jesus with an open heart, the veil is lifted, and we see. He is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger. His mercy endures forever; therefore, give thanks to the Lord always!

We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, yet we are justified by His grace. We should strive daily to be led by the Spirit, crying out, Abba, Father! 

Today, I just want to tell you that no matter what you are facing or going through,

just get up!

210809 Unfinished Song #35

Nowhere does it say 

You're not good enough

You're not worthy of His love

Lift yourself up

let the echo of His voice fill your heart

Take His hand and soar on clouds above

Coming home

To be continued

210808 His Favor On My Lips (Song)

 All I want is the end of the world

to walk in heavenly places

All I want is for You and I to be one

All it takes is a measure of faith

to step up out of the shadows

All it takes is for you and I

to be brave

There is a voice that echo's

A voice that's dying to be heard

This is a call for glory

The mighty power of your word

This is my new beginning

a fairytale that knows no end

This is a light that's shining bright

All it requires is a song in my heart

a woman who walks in her purpose

all it requires 

is Your favor, on my lips...

Exploring the Depths: Addressing Depression and the Heaviness of Existence.

Despite decades of research, the neural basis for depression is still lacking complete understanding. 

Depression is a subtle killer that lurks in the darkest recesses of our brains, ready to devour us in its stifling embrace. It's warfare that wages war on the battlefield of the mind, where every win feels like a little respite and every defeat like an eternity of anguish. In the heat of this tumultuous journey, one may find oneself wrestling with a perplexity that cuts to the heart of existence itself: If life becomes too painful and ends owing to the actions of others, wouldn't the burden of accountability fall on them when confronted with a higher power?

As someone who has traversed the dangerous conditions of depression, I understand the seriousness of this subject all too well. There are times when the pain inflicted by others seems inescapable, and the darkness threatens to consume every ounce of hope. In those moments of despair, it's natural to fantasize about escaping—about giving up the burden of existence entirely.

However, in the midst of our inner suffering, we must remember that the actions of others do not define our worth or our destiny.

With respect to divine judgment, it is important that we recognize that no one can claim that they fully understand the hidden mysteries of the universe or the nature of God's judgment. However, many religious traditions emphasize the sanctity of life and the intrinsic value of every individual's soul. Taking one's own life is often considered a tragic loss, leaving a trail of grief and unanswered questions.

In times of deep sorrow, it can be challenging to look past all the pain and anguish that distort our perspective. However, it is precisely in those moments that we must grasp onto the flickering light of hope, no matter how faint it appears. Seeking help from loved ones, therapists, or support groups can be a lifeline at the darkest moments, reminding us that we are not alone in our troubles. 

Ultimately, the journey through depression is a deeply personal one, formed by our own experiences and perceptions of the world. While the actions of others may inflict wounds on us, our response to those wounds ultimately determines our way forward. Rather than seeking retribution, may we strive to cultivate compassion and understanding, both for ourselves and for others.

Here are facts about depression that are so often overlooked and misunderstood:

It's a actual illness. 

There are three key elements, dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine. These neurotransmitters play a huge part in, how we feel. Serotonin contributes to our entire well-being, and some consider it the "feel-good" hormone. It aids in mending wounds, managing anxiety, and alleviating depression. Dopamine regulates many elements like reward, motivation, thinking, memory, and emotion. This chemical transmitter is pivotal in how we feel pleasure. Norepinephrine is part of the fight-or-flight response that causes our blood pressure and heart rate to soar. This response is also known as the stress response, and it is an essential part of the survival mechanism. 

It's Not the Same as Being Sad!

Everyone has heard someone describe themselves as depressed. Sometimes this happens following a significant occurrence, or even for the tiniest of things. Understanding that depression is distinct from sadness is crucial. 

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Starting Your Own Freelance Business: Insights from a Virtual Entrepreneurial Journey

Starting out as a freelancer can be intimidating and frightening, especially if you lack past experience or an established client base. However, with effort, perseverance, and strategic planning, it is entirely possible to build a successful freelance career. Here's my story about how I started from nothing, got clients, and stayed motivated each day. 

Like many aspiring freelancers, I began my journey with no experience or clients. Equipped just with my abilities, my passion, and a strong will to achieve, I began by offering my services on freelance platforms and job boards. Initially, rejection was prevalent, but I refused to let it stop me. Instead, I viewed each loss as an opportunity to hone my approach and enhance my skills.

Networking on freelance platforms was an essential strategy in helping me obtain my initial clients. I actively sought out possible clients via social media, professional networking events, and online communities related to my field. I actively marketed my services on social media. Making genuine connections and displaying my ability eventually lead to my first freelancing opportunities. As they say, start connecting with people in your immediate network.

However, securing clients was only the beginning. To succeed as a freelancer, I immediately understood the significance of staying motivated every day. Freelancing comes with its own set of challenges, from fluctuating income to periods of uncertainty. To address these obstacles, I established a routine that includes setting specific goals, prioritizing chores, and maintaining a healthy work-life balance.

There were times when self-doubt crept in and defeats appeared insurmountable. Nevertheless, I persisted. I reminded myself of my goals and why I started freelancing in the first place. With every obstacle overcome, my confidence grew stronger, and I became unstoppable.

Furthermore, with the right mindset and strategies, you can start making money as a freelancer from scratch. Anyone can achieve their freelance goals by starting small, making connections, staying inspired, and pushing through setbacks. So, if you're just starting out with your freelance business, remind yourself that success is possible with patience, persistence, and an element of resilience.

In conclusion, avoid chasing clients. There are clients who are both honest and transparent. Avoid making any compromises. The right client is going to appreciate the value you bring. Know your own worth! And be cautious of scams and clients who make grand promises but fail to keep them. Yes, they will ghost you. When a client "ghosts" you, it means they suddenly and without explanation cease all communication or contact. This usually occurs after initial interest or engagement, leaving the freelancer with no further response or follow-up from the client. The golden rule implies that if something appears too good to be true, it usually is. 

Finally, here are some words of inspiration: You need to develop a business mindset. Think big. Consider it your very own company, since that is exactly what it is. Freelancing is synonymous with entrepreneurship, which involves starting and growing one or more businesses.